4 Ways to Accept a Slower Pace in the Winter Season

4 Ways to Accept a Slower Pace in the Winter Season

Winter is here, and with it is a season that leaves many of us feeling confused. 

Around us, the world begins to slow down, but we carry on with the same pace we keep in the warmer months. The days are shorter, but instead of lessening our loads, we often work from dawn to dusk or later and wonder why we’re so tired. Accepting a slower pace in the winter might seem impossible, but slowing down for the season can make a huge difference in your mental health. 

In addition to the stress of the end of the year and the holiday season, many people deal with Seasonal Affective Disorder at this time of year. There are lots of theories as to why winter plays a role in Seasonal Affective Disorder. It may have something to do with a lack of Vitamin D from sunlight in the darker months, especially if you live in the northern hemisphere. We are affected by our environments, even if we like to imagine that with modern technology we’re past being at the mercy of Mother Nature. 

What is rest? 

If you’re not sure how to actually get real rest, you’re not alone. Lots of times, this is because rest isn’t what we think it is. Rest can be defined as “ceasing work and worry, or being, rather than doing.”

Real rest is different from the type of rest we often imagine. Rest isn’t just sleeping or not doing work. We might think of rest as sitting in front of the TV with a favorite show on, scrolling social media, but that isn’t actually a restful activity, and it does nothing to replenish us when we need it. By this time of the year, many of us are feeling burned out or wondering where our sense of inspiration or play has gone. 

We are animals, just like all the ones around us, and we have different needs in each season. The capitalist way we live and work, which focuses on money above all else, requires us to abandon our needs in order to keep working, so many of us don’t feel like we have any other option. Most of us don’t have the option to lighten our workloads in the winter, which can make it harder to listen to the needs of your body during this season. 

What if instead of struggling against the expectations you have for yourself this winter, you allow yourself to slow down and adopt the pace that feels comfortable for you? Here are 4 ways to accept a slower pace in the winter season: 

Change Your Expectations

Explore where you can scale back during the winter months. You might think it’s silly to try to lighten your load this winter because you’ve made it through every winter before this one. Just because you made it through doesn’t mean it was less of a burden to keep up your summer activity level in the wintertime. You deserve to have real, quality rest and replenishment so that you can feel your best throughout the rest of the year. 

When you accept that rest can be as important as work, it feels easier to allow yourself to rest. Rest is work, even. When we don’t rest as we should, we become burned out, irritable, and uninspired. By making time for rest regularly, you ensure that you are rejuvenated and ready to handle what comes your way. When you don’t make time for rest, your body will find a time, and it’s probably going to be as inconvenient as possible. Be proactive and rest before your body tells you it needs it. 

Prioritize rest

As mentioned above, rest is complicated and most of us aren’t very good at it. There is too much going on all of the time for many of us to fully relax or turn off our brains. This is a time of year that was designed for rest though. Look at the animals in your neighborhood who are much less active in the winter than in the summer. Lots of them even hibernate during the winter, because it’s better for survival to shut down for a few months than to struggle all winter to feed themselves. 

Take a leaf out of Mother Nature’s book this year and change the way you think about rest. What are activities that leave you feeling rested, rejuvenated, and relaxed? Try setting time limits on certain apps on your phone to help lessen the temptation to scroll. If you’re not sure where to start with rest, focus on your body. Where is there tension or sensation? What does your body need in the moment to feel rested? Listening to your body’s needs can help guide you toward rest that’s actually restful. 

Lean on your connections with others

We are social beings as humans, and so making connections with others comes naturally to us. It feels healing to make secure connections with others. This is especially true in hard or lean times, which winter often is. Throughout human history, people have been working together to survive the winter and we’re no different. We need community and connections to feel like our best selves. It can feel way harder to be social in the winter, so this is often something that people put on the back burner until the weather is nice again. 

This year, see how you can lean on the connections you have with others during the winter. Try to focus on spending time with people who make you feel calm, safe, and validated. If it feels okay to you, explain that you struggle in the winter and are trying to lean on your support system during this time. Lots of people also have a hard time during the winter, so being open about how you experience winter may even make them feel better about how they feel in the wintertime. 

Find moments of joy in the season

Winter can seem bleak or unforgiving, but there will always be moments of joy that you can pick up on, no matter what the season is. Some people find the way the snow falls in the winter to be really beautiful and moving. Others enjoy the holidays that come with the winter season. Do your best to be on the lookout for moments of joy this winter. Maybe it’s watching your dog jump through snow piles like a bunny. Maybe it’s making a big batch of warm soup for someone you care about. Maybe it’s the way light sparkles on the snow. 

Holding onto these moments of joy and beauty can help you feel more capable of handling the darkness that comes with this season. If you want, you can start a photo album or note on your phone where you keep track of the things that brought you joy recently. That way, in less-joyous moments, you can look back through and remind yourself that the darkness doesn’t last forever. 

Are you struggling to keep up with the demands of everyday life during the winter? You’re not alone, and working with a therapist can help give you an outlet and find ways to cope in the winter months. Reach out to our office today for more information or to schedule an appointment with one of our clinicians.